The next stage brings mixed emotion：anger， confusion， sadness， and fear. During this phase you may vacillate between extremes. When my friend Samantha lost her job unexpectedly， she went from screaming in traffic one minute to shaking and sobbing the next. Your feelings of anger or sadness may last minutes， clays， or weeks. The more you express them in healthy ways—working out your anger at the gym， for instance， or sharing your feelings with a trusted friend—the quicker they will pass.